The Missing Peace: Part II

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Pastor Keion Henderson is the lead pastor of The Lighthouse Church in Houston, Texas Lighthouse is an organization that serves the body of Christ through our 5 pillars. We always ANTICIPATE a move of God in every experience, so we constantly set a great ATMOSPHERE, and we ACCEPT everyone through love. We believe the best way to impact people is by being AUTHENTIC to who we are and by taking ACTION to move everyone towards greater.

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Pastor Keion (00:26):
Now in order to complete this map, you’ve got to go east. One of the reasons I named the church, the Lighthouse Church, you need to know this cousin, is when I started this church, I was in personally a dark place.

I was on the internet searching for a way to give myself hope and I saw a picture of a man on a lighthouse in the middle of the ocean. The storms were all around and the waves had almost capsized the lighthouse himself and yet this man was standing with his hands in his pocket and I thought, can we create something in Houston that equips people to stand in the storm? A lighthouse is that thing that you go to when you’re in danger. The lighthouse is that place that you seek when you have nowhere else to go. I need you to help me to complete this job right here. East is where I need you to help me and the other men that God have given me

Speaker 2 (01:31):

Pastor Keion (01:32):
Save this city from the darkness that this world presents. Are you with me,

Speaker 3 (01:41):
Pastor K, I’m with you. Let’s spread the light.

Pastor Keion (02:01):
Hey, I told you, I told you that last week’s message was too big to fit into one space, so we are back with the missing piece part two. Now, I really, really would admonish you, I beseech you brothers and sisters by the mercies of God that you would go back and watch part one because it is necessary that you watch part one in order to understand where we’re going to start with part two. And when you do that, you will understand the method behind the madness. Thank you so much, so much, so much for being a part of Take action week by week. I’m going to dive right into where we left off about the ministry of Reconciliation and Reconciliation is a ministry.

What do I mean by reconciliation, right? I mean you hear that word all the time, but what does it really mean? It means the restoring of relationships. It means a reunion. That’s why we have family reunions because so many things can happen over time. You reconcile those families as a way of keeping together and listen, may not. How many of you all go to church? Just raise your virtual hand. You go to church, whether it’s online or in person. You may not be in the choir, but you should be on the peace ministry and we talked about last week blessed or the peacemakers, and I want to just tell you that we said that the word peace was translated irony, which means to experience the opposite of what is expected and the word makers poel, which means it’s an active verb, which means to require resistance.

And so when we looked at it, the Bible says blessed all the peacemakers, but it didn’t tell us that peace doesn’t come in everything that we purchase, that some of the exercises in life that we take part in are unpeaceful, which means that we as believers cannot have our experiences based on what we experience, but we must experience what we decide to experience according to faith and that we can have peace in the middle of a storm. I’m going to use three words. They’re curse words and this is probably the first time you would’ve ever heard me actually curse online. I’m not going to apologize for it. I know y’all going to drag me for it, but I got to curse. Alright? Accept the responsibility. Okay, I cursed. They were getting ready to use the beep and all that kind of stuff. They was ready to go. I know those are three terrible words. I know you felt like I just cursed you out. I know, I know. I shouldn’t talk bad like that. I know I’m a man of God and I got to do better with my speech and the tongue is like a rudder to a ship and a sail to a boat. I know what James said, but I felt like cussing and I’m going to say it again, accept the responsibility for Christians being a peacemaker. It’s not a suggestion, it is a command.

One Peter three 15 says, sanctify the Lord God in your hearts and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asks you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness, peacefulness and fear.

Did I just curse? Yes. Accept responsibility. Those are two hard words. Well three. If I say the for people to accept the responsibility, what do you mean accept the responsibility? It’s your fault. Accept responsibility. I didn’t do nothing. Accept responsibility or the plausibility that you are guilty of something you may not recognize you’re guilty of. Now this is a hard one. This is a hard one. Everybody listening to me and hears me right now either knows somebody or you yourself feel that nervous pit, frustrating anger in the pit of your stomach when it’s time to take responsibility. Oh by the way, you have to take it.

You almost have to take it away sometimes from the people who are responsible. Man, that’s so good. I need to say it again. Somebody else can be responsible for the miscommunication, but when you take responsibility, you’re saying, you know what? Maybe you contributed 95 and I only contributed five, but I’m going to take responsibility because I’m a peacemaker. Alright, I got another scripture. Ephesians four and 26, I’m going to wear your Bible out today. I’m going to wear your Bible out. Ephesians four and 26, here we go. You ready? Be ye angry. I like the King James version, but sin not. You may need a moment but you don’t get a week. You may need a week but you don’t get a month. You may need a month, but you don’t get a year. Now let me share a scripture with you

That’s going to help you. I’m looking it up right now and this is going to help you. Alright, now this is in Ephesians 4 26. I had to look it up so I can get the whole version of this for you. And I like the King James version of the Bible. So it may read slightly different than yours and you may not like the translation, but I want to read it to you. We just said it, Ephesians four and 26. Now what does the Bible says? Be angry and what and sin not. Now here is the part that I need you to get because I just said you may need a week but you don’t get a month. You may need a month but you don’t get a year. You may need a year, but you don’t get a decade to get over hurt.

Truthfully, if we read the Bible correctly, you don’t get a day. Now I’m not God. So I said you can get a week if you need a week, you get a month. If you need a month, you need a year. But truthfully, Paul said in the book of Ephesians chapter four verse 26, be angry and sin not. Don’t let the sun go down on your anger, which means that whatever is frustrating you now needs to be solid and solidified before the sun goes down in your time zone, which means you don’t get according to God’s word to hold a grudge and be angry with people until you feel like you’ve been angry enough with them that they’ve paid.

Because most people who are hurting will only stop hurting when the person who hurt them starts hurting. I need to say that again. Most people can’t get over their anger until they have been so angry with the person that made them angry that the person that made them angry starts to be angry because of the anger and now they’re hurting because they’re angry and now when they start hurting, you are no longer angry. Rewind it three times and press play. See some of y’all going to quit watching this because you don’t want this. You’re going to hit stop because you don’t want this, but this is where the peace comes from. You don’t get to be mad at somebody for a year because of what they did in the 12th grade. You don’t get to be mad at your husband all year long because he didn’t open the door for you. You don’t get to be mad at your wife because it wasn’t a meal on the table and you walked in and if you are mad with them by the time dinnertime comes, you got to be over it because you can’t let the sun go down on your anger.

But you know what I’ve learned? There are some people who don’t want peace, just don’t want it. Some people are comfortable in the negative lanes of life. Some people are comfortable being bitter. This is what I learned a long time ago. Please listen to your boy write this down. If you got something to write with, type it If you got something to type with. How many of you ever met somebody who you thought was mean? Just a mean person? You know what I learned? A lot of what you see isn’t meanness. What you are actually seeing is threatened self-esteem. They are so busy feeling bad for themselves that they can’t be happy for you. I remember not too long ago I was playing golf. It was the day after I’d done a leg workout and my lower back was sore and anybody knows about golf, you got to have your back to play and my back was sore that day. It caused me to slow down my back swing because I couldn’t reach it without discomfort. You know what I did? Put the club down on hole number one, put one leg up on the golf cart, stretched my hamstringing, threw it down, put the other leg up on the golf cart, stretched my hamstring, put it down, went back, picked the club up.

I went a little bit further. Put the club down. I did this over and over and over again until I could reach the point where I could turn into the swing. I hope what I’m saying to you is about to help you because me telling you to take responsibility and me telling you to make peace with all men and me telling you take responsibility even if you are only responsible for 5%, you know what that’s like? That’s like me telling you to turn right and as soon as you hit that point where you’re uncomfortable, ah, you’re going to quit. But you know what? You could reach further if you’d stress yourself. I wasn’t at full swing the first time I stretched. I had to put the club down, I had to stretch, put the club down, stretch. So you’re going to have to stretch until you can get to the point where you can make that turn and not be uncomfortable. Who am I talking to today?

There is always a sacrifice for peace. There’s always a stretching necessary for peace. The first thing we must sacrifice in order to have peace. Are you ready? Another cuss word I’m about to cuss again, I pride. Most words that have I in the middle are dangerous for you. Pride, P-R-I-D-E sin, SIN. When that I gets in the middle of everything, you got a problem. We must be willing to say the two hardest words in the English language in order to be peacemakers. I’m about to say two more curse words. Oh, my mouth is off the chain today. You ready? I’m sorry, did I just curse again? You would think it’s a curse word as hard as it is for some people to say they actually say four letter words easier than they can say, I’m sorry, or is it might require saying the three hardest words in the English language production team. I’m sorry, I got to curse again. I was wrong. And man, I’m going to get rebuked. Proverbs 13 and 10 says, only by pride cometh contention, but with the well advised its wisdom all not some, all not most A LL. That means all unforgiveness is pride related.

Oh, I know what you’re going to say. Nope, I can forgive X, Y, Z, but if they do this, I can’t. All unforgiveness it is pride related. God so loved the world that he gave his own begotten son that whosoever believed within him shall not perish, have everlasting life. We rejected God killed his son and he still forgave us all because he has no pride. All unforgiveness is connected to your pride. Every person you can’t forgive is because of your ego and not the level of hurt that they issued. Okay, analyze the word peacemakers, accept responsibility, and I want you to know that I’m about to give you one, two, about two or three ways that you can get peace in your life and find the missing peace. Okay, here’s number one. They’re going to put it up on the screen. You’re going to see it for your notes.

Here’s number one, if you’re seeking peace with somebody, I want you to apply effective communication principles. And here’s number one, listen without interrupting or correcting, this is the first way you have a peaceful conversation. Listen, without interrupting or correcting, how many of you all either know somebody? I always have to offer both because some people think they don’t do nothing wrong. Either know somebody or you are the person that you’re not really listening to what the person is saying. You’re just listening for them to be quiet enough, long enough to tell ’em what you actually thinking about what they haven’t even said yet. For example, if someone gets a date, place or fact wrong, that’s okay. How many of y’all have had arguments with your spouse? They say, I remember just like it was yesterday, you had a red shirt on and we were in Philadelphia. No, we wasn’t even in Philadelphia, we was in Mexico. Does that matter where we were? Can you listen long enough without interrupting or correcting? Because is it essential that I get the place we were correct? Or is it essential that

Speaker 4 (19:06):
We get peace?

Pastor Keion (19:09):
It is essential that each person feels free to express their feelings and opinions without being interrupted are corrected. The most important thing is not getting all of the facts or details right, but letting people express their feelings without interruption or correction. And why is this hard for people? Because if a person gets one of the facts wrong, we assume that everything they’re saying about the situation is wrong and that is not true. James one 19 says, wherefore my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak and slow to rap. How many of us are quick to speak, slow to hear and faster to wr? I’m going to say something. Listening is the only way you earn the right to be heard. Listening is the only way you earn the right to be heard. Number one, listen without interrupting or correcting. Number two, this is very practical. Don’t begin sentences with the word you.

Alright? Here, I’m going to give you the culprit that we obviously you always game over. Conversation. Done, done, done, done, done. Alright. You done. Don’t nobody always and never do nothing, but we always say you never care how I feel. You never listen to me and lemme tell you something. When a person has listened to you and you tell them they never have, all they do is start thinking in their minds every time that they actually have and they are not listening to what you’re saying right now. When you begin a sentence with the word you, it is revered as a personal attack.

And here’s what I think number two you need to do is attack the problem and not the person. So don’t begin the word. Don’t begin sentences with the word you. Number three, this is huge. Is this helping anybody put in the chat? You’re helping me. If I’m helping you, you’re helping me, you’re helping me, you’re helping me get through life. You’re helping me with my children, you’re helping me with my spouse, you’re helping me with my job, you’re helping me with my insecurities. Just say you’re helping me because that’s all I want to do. Number three, this is going to take you being a peacemaker. Alright? The next time you’re in a heated discussion, I want you to look for the hurt behind the words.

Instead of correcting or trying to defend yourself, concentrate on the hurt. Here’s what Proverbs 16 and 24 says, pleasant words or as a honeycomb sweet to the soul and health to the bones. Did you hear that words like, I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to hurt you. I didn’t mean to misunderstand you. It’s like honey to bees, health to bones accept responsibility, apply biblical communication principles and anticipate reward. Now, what rewards are you anticipating? Number one, if you’re a peacemaker, you can anticipate that God is going to bless you. Everybody shout, I’m blessed. Shout it. I’m going to find that emoji with the gray head with the lines coming out of his mouth. Shout, I’m blessed because when you are a reconciliatory person and you are a peaceful person and you seek peace with all men and you turn, you will be blessed. Blessed are the peacemakers, Matthew five and nine. So your first reward is you will be blessed. Number two, if you follow the instructions that I’m giving you, you will be displaying godly traits. You will demonstrate the God side of you. Matthew seven and 20 says, wherefore by their fruits, ye shall know them. See, people will know you when you actually make peace and it is only you that God is going to allow anybody to bless.

Number three, and this is a big one, I decree and declare it. When you are peacemaker, you’re going to start to reap your harvest. Good God Almighty. How many of y’all have been praying and it’s been in the storehouse, but God says you are going to reap your harvest. You’re going to reap your harvest. James three and 18 And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace. Making peace is like a farmer who understands when he plants a seed, he is actually sowing a harvest. Can I tell you what the word harvest actually means? Well, I’ll give you what people call it. Harvest is a synonym for what people actually call karma. People say karma is quick and yeah, you can use that word. Lemme tell you what God called it. Harvest you, reap what you sow. And God says that if you sow peace, you’re going to reap peace. If you sow love, you’re going to reap love. If you sow kindness, you’re going to reap it. And guess what? Guess what? You don’t always get it from the person you sold it into. Sometimes you can treat your children right, they won’t treat you right. You’ll go to the church and a kid will come up to you and ask you to be their mentor and you’ll be blessed by the fruit of their life.

You don’t always get it from where you sold it, but you can always feel good about sowing it no matter where you get it from because blessed are the peacemakers. This is the season for you to be peaceful. I don’t want you going another year confused, angry, lack of self-esteem, frustrated down on yourself. I want you to hold your head up and be content. Be Daniel and lay down on the lion. Be the Hebrew boys and walk around in the fire. Be Joseph and survive the pit and potiphar’s house and the prison until you become the prime minister. Be David and dance with broken bones and worship even when your son absalon is chasing you down and Saul doesn’t see the real gift inside of you and is trying to assassinate you. Bless the Lord at all times and let his praise continuously be in your mouth. Let your soul make her boast in the Lord. You must decide to experience the opposite of what the experience is offering and when you do that, you’ll be like the prince of peace. I say to you today, and I dec declare and declare that this is the last year in your life where you will lose sleep about your current struggle.

I say to you, forgive yourself. Lift up your head. Ye gates beye lifted up the everlasting doors and the king of glory shall come in it. This is your missing peace. The missing peace to your life is making the decision to experience the opposite of what the experience is offering. Spirit of the living God, let a peace that’s a passeth all understanding fall on the hearts and the minds of every person listening to me today.

Let no one including myself go unaffected by the words of my mouth, meditation of my heart. Let it all be acceptable in your sight. Oh Lord, my strength and my redeemer. In Jesus name I pray. Amen. I thank you so much for spending these two weeks with me, the discovering how to find the missing peace. Don’t forget the next time you get that box, you’re going to have to go back and watch number one to know what I’m talking about and it’s missing a piece. Trace it, color it if you have to fill in the blanks because God wants you to have life and have that life. You guessed it more abundantly as you give today, as you give, I want you to sow into peace. That peace I give peace. I receive God. This gift right here is a tangible expression of the peace that I’m getting ready to make in my life. It’s not coming. Peace is not coming. You got to be a peace maker. You have to be a peace maker.

You do not find still frames in the ground. You have to get the iron ore, you got to melt it down. You got to put it in a frame. It eventually can be it, but when you get it, it’ll be the raw materials. Make peace with yourself. Make peace with God. Make peace with people as you give. They’re putting all the giving instructions up on the screen right now. And I pray right now in the name of Jesus that God’s going to give you more in reception than you could in the offering. I bless you, God, that we are about to have more than enough. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen. I love you all. I’ll see you next week.

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